Your weekly antidote to the ‘fuck-its’

Every Monday morning, I sit down to write because I know how hard weekends can be.

The routines soften, the structure slips, the drinks, the snacks, the “oh screw it, I’ll start again Monday” moments, they happen to all of us.

And then Monday shows up, smug as ever, and we find ourselves thinking, what’s the point, I already messed up.

My clients and I have a name for that feeling. We call it getting the fuck-its.

It’s that sneaky all-or-nothing mindset that struts in right when you’re actually making progress.

After more than twelve years in the health and fitness industry, I’ve seen it, coached it, cried with it, and occasionally been it.

Why I started this blog

After a decade of personal training, I realized my mission wasn’t just to help women get stronger, it was to help them quit quitting.

We’re raised in a culture that whispers, “you could be just a little smaller, a little tighter, a little more disciplined,” and then shouts, “and do it in 21 days or less.”

I’ve watched incredible women go all in, only to burn out faster than their pre-workout buzz.

I’ve been that woman too.

When I gave up alcohol, I thought I’d feel like a glowy wellness goddess floating through life on green juice and gratitude. Instead, I felt everything I’d been numbing for years, fear, anxiety, awkwardness, all of it.

Alcohol had been my social safety blanket, my off-switch, my confidence coat. Taking it away meant learning who I was without it, which turned out to be the hardest and best work I’ve ever done.

That’s what inspired this next chapter of my coaching. I wanted to go deeper, to help women understand not just what to do, but why they do it. To help them feel seen, heard, and understood, and to co-create plans that actually fit their real personalities and real lives.

That’s where the DISC Model of Human Behaviour came in and completely changed the game.

The psychology behind the “fuck-its”

The DISC Model explains that we all have different behavioural styles, Dominant, Inspiring, Supportive, and Cautious, and each one handles stress in its own special (and sometimes chaotic) way.

A D-style might double down and start micromanaging their macros like they’re running a Fortune 500 company.

An I-style might wander off halfway through their workout playlist to make a smoothie and never come back.

An S-style might quietly panic if their routine gets thrown off and need a little reassurance before jumping back in.

A C-style like me might overthink the overthinking until they’re too paralyzed to take the next step.

When you know your natural style, you stop trying to be someone you’re not.

You stop downloading twelve different habit trackers you’ll never open again.

You start building systems that work with your wiring instead of against it.

That’s how we begin to heal the Monday mindset, not by grinding harder, but by understanding ourselves better.

The body and mind connection

Movement is magic for your mood. It’s one of the quickest ways to tell your brain, “Hey, we’re safe, you can calm down now.”

It pulls you out of overthinking and into your body, which is where real progress begins.

That’s why every blog post includes one movement, one mindset, and one mantra.

They’re tiny but powerful ways to reset your body, your thoughts, and your confidence, without needing to overhaul your entire life.

Here’s how that looks this week:

Step 1: Movement
Start your morning with ten minutes of movement before you check your phone.

Walk, stretch, or breathe. It doesn’t matter what it looks like.

You’re not chasing a calorie burn, you’re proving that you can show up for yourself before the world starts asking for things.

Step 2: Mindset
Ask yourself, What does progress look like for my personality today?

If you’re people-oriented, maybe progress means saying no when you usually say yes.

If you’re task-oriented, maybe it’s leaving the dishes in the sink and giving yourself permission to rest.

Real growth starts when you understand what actually drives you, not when you copy someone else’s routine from Instagram.

Step 3: Mantra
I’m not starting over. I’m moving forward.

Say it when you feel off track. Whisper it in traffic. Yell it if you have to.

Progress isn’t about being perfect, it’s about being present.

The bigger picture

This blog isn’t about kale smoothies or perfect morning routines. It’s about the psychology of change, the power of movement, and the bravery it takes to keep showing up when no one’s clapping for you.

Every week, I’ll share practical tools, honest stories, and mindset shifts to help you understand yourself better through the lens of human behaviour, emotional awareness, and good old-fashioned humour.

Because the truth is, transformation doesn’t happen in 21 days. It happens on random Tuesdays when you don’t quit.